As an adult you know that you are different from others. Whether you are a very sociable and gregarious person or a shy reclusive one, popular person or some one who finds it difficult to make friends, one who believe that success is his inheritance or one that does not deserve it, the simple fact is that your template was developed in childhood. You do not develop shyness as an adult.
As you grow up, your subconscious mind develops coping mechanism to survive and it does so by absorbing information from things around you.
Your subconscious mind dictates whether you see yourself as success or a failure.

Your subconscious mind is your energy source. If you want to do something contrary to what is contained in the subconscious mind, there is no way to permanently override what the subconscious mind has been programmed to do. If you have a fear of snake, by telling yourself consciously that you are not afraid of snakes will not work. If, however, you can change this information in your subconscious mind, then your fear of snakes will disappear.
It is therefore vitally important that, if you want your child to live a successful and stress free life, you have to be very careful what you say or do. If you can instil in your child the belief that everything is achievable or that if someone can do something so can he or she, then you are laying down templates for a happy, confident and successful adult.

It is claimed that 95% of us have a negative aspect of life and most of this is laid down in childhood. The sad reality is that we parents are not all child psychologists and we are entitled to get it wrong but if you see any truth in what I have written here, start right now to motivate and inspire your child. Wilde said that we are all in the gutter but some of us are looking at the stars.

There are things commonly said by parents often in anger that could impact seriously on a child. If a very young child is told by a parent, teacher, elder sibling or anyone else in a position of authority:
“You never do anything right.”
“What’s the matter with you?”
“Why can’t you be more like Billy?”
“Don’t you have a brain in your head?”
“Why are you so stupid?”
“You will never amount to anything!”

This child will often be a failure in life. The reason is that this child’s conscious mind is not developed enough to block this type of information. Therefore, it becomes a fact in his subconscious mind. A belief system. What successful person has a cornerstone like that. More like~ I can and I will.
As he/she grows to adulthood, the subconscious will be a very good student and apply everything it has learnt. Remember, the subconscious is not right or wrong, good or bad, it is merely a computer just like the one you are reading from now. It is not judgemental.
The subconscious will force the conscious mind to act in exactly the same manner learnt from childhood.

The things that hold us back as adults or the things that drive us forwards are all dependent of the information laid down a long time ago when we were developing adaptive skills to cope with our surrounding. If you can relate to some of these things then you know how important it is that you lay strong foundation in your child to prepare for adulthood.

A child is like a piece a clay is your hands. What that child grows up to be will depend heavily on how you mould and shape his or her life. There is a lot more to bringing up a child. So cultivate a good belief system and aspiration in your child. It is your responsibility. We are all born to succeed. Give your child that chance.
Dr. Phil Hariram